Asking who's the "man" and who's the "woman" in a gay relationship is like going to a Chinese restaurant and asking which chopstick is the fork.
When your friends break something of yours.
Did you know that in Japan there are 3 ways to say "I love you"? You say "Daisuki" for friends and guys you like, you say "Aishiteru" for a more serious relationship and you say "Koishiteru" to the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. And they follow this rule. That is one of the things I admire about them. They didn't make "I love you" lose its meaning like us.